皓皓似乎变得不那么狂野了。他会经常的静静在那里，不动，不说话，望着你，似乎眼都不眨的望着你。有时在玩耍，你的某些动作，也会促使他停下来，盯着你，一动不动的看着。是在学习么？
Sunday, January 20, 2013
Tuesday, January 1, 2013
Separation and independence
seems haohao is ready now.
Developmental milestones: Separation and independence
Highlights
When will my baby develop a sense of individuality?
Your baby's sense of individuality take years to develop. At first she thinks you and she are one and the same.A famous study shows exactly how clueless babies are about their own existence. Researchers placed several babies in front of a mirror to see whether they understood that the reflection was an image of themselves. They didn't. The children patted their mirror image, behaving as if they were seeing another baby.
Then, at around six or seven months, your baby will start to realise that she is separate from you, and that you can leave her alone. This is when separation anxiety usually begins. It can last well into her second year.
Your baby will gradually become more sociable and confident with others. And she will come to realise that you will come back for her when you leave her at nursery or with a babysitter. As she gains confidence she will start to forge her own identity.
By the toddler years, your baby's budding independence may actually become a problem. Wanting things her way is at the heart of many temper tantrums.
How will my baby learn to cope with separation and independence?
One to six monthsUntil your baby is six months old, she can only think about her immediate needs: food, love and attention. In the first few months, your baby can't even think about tackling the process of forming her own identity. She's too busy trying to gain control over her basic movements and reflexes.
You may start to notice the first signs of budding independence when your baby is about four or five months. She will start to express herself through anger, discovering that she can cry to get your attention. This is one of the first steps in learning that she has an independent will, and that how she behaves can affect others, namely you.
Seven to 12 months
At around seven months your baby will realise she is independent of you. This is a huge cognitive leap worthy of celebration. Just be prepared for your baby getting a bit anxious at this new understanding of separateness. She's become so attached to you that when you leave her alone, even for a minute, she will burst into tears. She doesn't yet know that you will always come back.
Be assured it's normal for your baby to feel this way. It's a sign that she's strongly attached to you. Sneaking out while her back is turned when you leave her at nursery won't help. In fact, it may just make her more afraid that you aren't coming back.
If you have to leave her to be cared for by someone else, give her something that she often sees you using or wearing, like a soft scarf. The chances are that it will also smell of you which will give her added comfort. You can help ease the transition by asking her carers to approach slowly and letting your baby make the first move. When it comes to say goodbye, as hard as it can be, say goodbye and go while she's watching.
12 to 24 Months
Your baby's making more progress in differentiating herself from you and from the world around her.
When your baby is two, she may still get upset when you leave her at nursery or with a babysitter. But she'll recover more quickly now because she's more secure. Experience, and her budding memory skills, have taught her that you will come back after being gone for a while. You've built this trust by continually showing her that you love and care for her.
It's that feeling of trust that gives her the confidence to assert herself. What signs of independence will you notice now? Your child may insist on wearing her purple pyjamas for the fifth night in a row, eating only certain foods, and climbing into her car seat by herself.
25 to 36 months
Between the ages of two and three, your toddler will continue to struggle for independence. She will wander further away from you as she goes exploring. And she'll continue to test her limits, by drawing on the walls, for example, even if you tell her not to. "I can do it myself" is probably one of the most common phrases parents hear from older toddlers.
How can I encourage my baby's independence?
Your baby needs a secure attachment to you if she is to explore the world safely. This attachment to you is the base from which she can move away from, but return to, when she needs reassurance.Consistently give her love and support, and she'll build the confidence she needs to strike out on her own. From day one, respond immediately to your baby's cries. Feed her when she's hungry, change her nappy when it's dirty, and smile and talk to her when she's alert.
Playing games such as hide and seek and peekaboo can enhance her understanding of separation and return. Keep showing how her favourite teddy bear or doll still exists when it's hidden under a blanket. This will help her to understand that daddy and mummy can disappear but also come back.
You should also make sure that you've set up a safe environment for your baby at home. She needs to test her limits and explore her surroundings to develop independence and gain confidence.
Instead of running around saying "no" every time she touches something that could harm her, keep dangerous objects out of her reach. Put plenty of safe objects and toys within her reach she can grab at. That way she won't get frustrated when she wanders, and she'll be safe.
Know, too, that just because your baby is starting to strike out on her own doesn't mean she'll require less of your comfort and love. Your baby may grow less needy as she reaches toddlerhood, but she will still crave constant care from you.
Encourage her any time she tries something on her own, but don't push her away when she runs back to you for reassurance. She'll want and need this for a long time to come.
My baby is 11 months and seems very clingy. Should I be concerned?
Separation anxiety is normal for babies between nine and 20 months. But do talk to your doctor or health visitor if:- her anxiety becomes so overwhelming that she is unable to do anything without you by her side
- she's inconsolable when you leave her with a carer, even after you're long gone from her presence
http://www.babycenter.com.sg/a6577/developmental-milestones-separation-and-independence#ixzz2Gh4hdbgW
Milestone chart (7 - 12 mths)
Another article, from 7 to 12 months.
| Mastered Skills (Most children can do) | Emerging Skills (Half of children can do) | Advanced Skills (A few children can do) |
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http://www.babycenter.com.sg/e6477/milestone-chart-seven-to-12-months#ixzz2GguG2SD3
What to expect from your baby at this stage
This article from babycenter seems informative. :)
What to expect from your baby at this stage.
http://www.babycenter.com.sg/e6476/milestone-chart-one-to-six-months#ixzz2GgtlnuIM
| Mastered Skills (most children can do) | Emerging Skills (half of children can do) | Advanced Skills (a few children can do) |
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http://www.babycenter.com.sg/e6476/milestone-chart-one-to-six-months#ixzz2GgtlnuIM
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